How it all began

My personal story, is a reflection of many women's story, each with their own individual hues. My loss, my grief is also another women's loss and grief, with the common ground being isolation. After supporting numerous women in their infertility & nulliparous stories, I saw a need that wasn't being met. I also saw that so much more was possible with real sharing, supporting and community, what these powerful women can do on the other side of our suffering.

There is nothing more humbling than coming to terms, making peace with what is and then emerging with so much wholeness, satisfaction, fulfillment and joy from this crucible.

I make no promises, other than, all of you is welcome here, and lets walk some of the steps together. Hand in hand, heart to heart.

All things are possible here. As we say goodbye to Motherhood together.

You will get to know me and my story more once you are in the community space. For those who want to connect with me outside of Dance of Empty Arms, you can visit my site here:

Yours in this journey, Andrea Martell - Joy Scientist

How it all began

My personal story, is a reflection of many women's story, each with their own individual hues. My loss, my grief is also another women's loss and grief, with the common ground being isolation. After supporting numerous women in their infertility & nulliparous stories, I saw a need that wasn't being met. I also saw that so much more was possible with real sharing, supporting and community, what these powerful women can do on the other side of our suffering.

There is nothing more humbling than coming to terms, making peace with what is and then emerging with so much wholeness, satisfaction, fulfillment and joy from this crucible.

I make no promises, other than, all of you is welcome here, and lets walk some of the steps together. Hand in hand, heart to heart.

All things are possible here. As we say goodbye to Motherhood together.

You will get to know me and my story more once you are in the community space. For those who want to connect with me outside of Dance of Empty Arms, you can visit my site here:

Yours in this journey, Andrea Martell - Joy Scientist

We are ...

A community

This group is different from traditional infertility and nulliparous supports in that we embrace and open ourselves deeply to the position that becoming a parent may not be an option. We honor and hold sacred the brutality of the infertility journey, as well as the grief of those who have chosen not to have children due to their circumstances. Our goal is to support you in finding peace, calm, and harmony in the place you are in. It's not to say it won't happen for you, but we hold a space for you in your totality, the grief, hopelessness, and despair are all welcomed here. No false hope, no "don't give up," no unsolicited advice, no trying to help you out of the pain that you are in.

Here all of you is welcomed, and you are not alone.

Self & others, space holding, care, sharing, compassion & listening

Affirming Communication, support instead of being isolated & alone through our experiences

Peace, self responsibility, hero’s journey, aliveness, rich wealth & purpose & fulfilment, joy, wholeness

Feelings, emotions processing, healing, permission, witnessing, allowing, grief, transmuting

What's beyond where you are now?


When we are in our pain, its difficult to consider what's on the other side of it. The possibilities, opportunities, a glimmer of a bright future ahead.

Here we hold and journey through the depths of it all and celebrate the joys, the glimmers, all is welcome here.

Journey with us